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[Stark Coyote]

People always say they are usually turned gay or they are born gay.

Are they both right or both wrong?

I am a gay male, and I will say I was born this way. I have always liked males in that way, and I would always be like that towards males.

People also say, they chose to be gay, Why would you want to be Gay? We gays are always put down and stereotyped! I am proud to be gay but as I said before, Why would you choose to be gay.

So the Topic is, Are you BORN Gay/Straight or are you Turned/Chose to be Gay/Straight?

DISCUSS

This post has been edited by Squirtle Squad: Feb 27 2011, 03:16 PM

[KatjadieTediz]

To be fair, the whole choice-or-not thing varies among many different people.
It doesn't seem to be a one-size-fits-all deal.

Personally? I wasn't turned gay or chose to be that way. Just like I didn't choose to be white, cis, female, or have Asperger's. In fact, some people like myself discover who
they prefer very early in life. I've always liked women.

I also believe it is important to remember that sexuality is a spectrum, not just a set number of outfits
you happen to fit into at some point. Some people fit into straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, asexual etc clothes
very well. Sometimes, they wear a mix of them. Some may like women, but be open to possibilities with men, too.
Some may only trust those who do not fit into the gender binary but have had past relationships with cis individuals.
Etc, etc, etc, etc. It's a big spectrum, after all!


I do believe, however, that in the end straight people shouldn't really have a final say in the matter.
Opinions are great and fine to have, but y'all shouldn't get to write the psychology books or teach the youth
in this matter. :>
It's not that you're bad, it's just that you don't know much about what LGBTQA+ folks go through when discovering
their lack of hetero.