LGBTQ Thread, Issues and other Topics, Where people can find others like them |
Jan 3 2016, 06:20 PM
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Pokémon Trainer Group: Members Posts: 3 Joined: 19-April 12 Member No.: 162 958 Active Squad |
I really do hope so, and the trans* community being put under as a joke of the social norm, that may be nice if it stopped too.
People should be more open to this, yes, but unfortunately if you have things pushed in your face all the time by the media, people just think way worse if it and make way more stereotypes and jokes about it. -------------------- |
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Feb 19 2016, 11:19 PM
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She Who Can Be Voracious Group: +Donors Posts: 2 808 Joined: 9-January 10 From: Flatland Member No.: 79 103 My Purple Ones |
I was fortunate to attend a discussion on campus with Scott Fearing, who has presented a Rochester TEDx talk.
I am still learning. How inclusive is the LGBTQ community towards people who are disabled or not considered "whole"? Perhaps you can share your experiences and share in what general area of the world you are in. -------------------- Avatar by Cycloneblaze at Cycloneshop II Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/eevee64 Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/Baymax |
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Apr 16 2016, 04:23 PM
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She Who Can Be Voracious Group: +Donors Posts: 2 808 Joined: 9-January 10 From: Flatland Member No.: 79 103 My Purple Ones |
Dude, I guess I should let this thread die, but someone from my community college's GSA made what I thought was a rude remark about Shirley Temple. "She died when she was 85, she probably forgot how to breathe." that I thought was ageist but I did not have the courage to say so.
I feel we all need to remember not to disparage other people because of an aspect of them that we can perceive. I would have thought that since that person knew what it was like to be seen as different they would extend courtesy to other people. I may just be sensitive, I suppose. What do you think? -------------------- Avatar by Cycloneblaze at Cycloneshop II Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/eevee64 Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/Baymax |
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Apr 16 2016, 05:02 PM
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Friendly reminder that we're all gonna die someday Group: Members Posts: 74 Joined: 11-June 14 From: Poland Member No.: 220 418 Kings and Queens |
Hello!
I didn't even know there was a LGBTQ thread! Thank for posting in April Community thread! Maybe I'll introduce myself. I'm Kaleisum (or Kale for short). I go by he/him pronouns. I'm gay. Since I know this thread exists I think it won't go into oblivion so fear no more, Gryphaena! x) This post has been edited by Kaleisum: Jul 15 2017, 05:51 AM -------------------- |
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Apr 17 2016, 11:21 AM
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She Who Can Be Voracious Group: +Donors Posts: 2 808 Joined: 9-January 10 From: Flatland Member No.: 79 103 My Purple Ones |
Hey, Kale!
Welcome. :] I think an earlier poster in here is asexual so you're in good company. I hope people will remember this thread and not just perform drive-by posts. -------------------- Avatar by Cycloneblaze at Cycloneshop II Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/eevee64 Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/Baymax |
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Apr 17 2016, 02:43 PM
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Friendly reminder that we're all gonna die someday Group: Members Posts: 74 Joined: 11-June 14 From: Poland Member No.: 220 418 Kings and Queens |
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Apr 26 2016, 08:28 PM
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Pokémon Trainer Group: Newbies Posts: 1 Joined: 25-April 16 From: Cuenca, Ecuador Member No.: 240 845 Active Squad |
hey guys! my name is dakota (or cactus) and i'm a nonbinary gray-ace lesbian !! =^-^=
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Apr 27 2016, 11:24 AM
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Friendly reminder that we're all gonna die someday Group: Members Posts: 74 Joined: 11-June 14 From: Poland Member No.: 220 418 Kings and Queens |
hey guys! my name is dakota (or cactus) and i'm a nonbinary gray-ace lesbian !! =^-^= Hey Dakota. Welcome to the thread. x) This post has been edited by Kaleisum: Jul 15 2017, 05:53 AM -------------------- |
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May 8 2016, 02:27 PM
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The third and only! Group: Members Posts: 769 Joined: 13-August 09 From: Goldenrod City, Johto Member No.: 56 656 Kiwis |
Hiya. In response to Kale's prompt....
I've always been gender nonconforming. I felt highly uncomfortable and would scream and thrash when forced to wear clothes of my 'birth gender' or whatever. I never played with toys of my birth gender. My mom denies this and always tried sooo hard to shove me into the gender mold. I don't want to go into more detail or recount more stories, because it makes me very angry, of course. My entire childhood was controlled by an insane narcissist who had to always have it her way. Happy Mother's Day. For a while I decided I was fully transgender, like, binary transgender. As I've been away from my mom and able to experiment more (I luckily am able to pass either way without hormones), I think I've been leaning more towards somewhere in between. I don't think I could handle the stigma of a full transition, and I don't know that I identify as that other gender that strongly. All I know is that I DON'T identify as my birth gender AT ALL. So lately I've just been settling for "genderqueer" as a pretty open-ended label. I might get some surgery later to be more comfortable with my body, because that creates great discomfort for me, but I'm fairly indifferent in terms of pronouns. The bisexuality came more or less after the trans bit, so it wasn't even big enough to be a talking point, honestly. I've known I liked boys for a while, and at some point later, it was like, "oh yeah, I like girls and non-binary people, too." sort of like, sure, whatever. It's really not a big deal to me. I feel like gender is a social construct, and anybody can like anybody. So. Yeah. -------------------- Credits!! (click to show ) |
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May 19 2016, 01:50 PM
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Pokémon Trainer Group: Members Posts: 16 Joined: 22-July 09 From: Switzerland Member No.: 48 990 Active Squad |
Oh my, I'm so glad I found this thread! I'm Sledwaya (she/her) but feel free to call me Vic, I identify as asexual and I'm pretty sure I belong somewhere on the aromantic spectrum. I have only told one friend about this and she was very supportive, but sadly I can't say the same about my family. I live in southern Switzerland (the Italian-speaking region), and since we are so far away from most large cities (where people speak either German or French, so there's also a language barrier) many people are still terribly misinformed and closed-minded.
Let's get personal: I started considering asexuality when I realised that words such as "sexy" or "hot" never really made sense to me, and I have been using it to describe myself for about 5 months now. When I was younger I thought that I had to be a lesbian because I never found any guy sexually attractive, but it's the same with girls so I just rolled with it haha. I have to say that accepting my asexuality was a lot easier than what I am doing now, which is dealing with aromanticism. I think it's so hard because girls are told from a very young age that their main goal in life is to find true, everlasting love and my brain hasn't forgotten it yet. I've tried everything to prove myself that after all I am somewhat romantic, and I even got into a relationship that failed miserably in less than a month and I ended up hurting a really nice guy who did'nt deserve it at all. Also, I have severe depression, and sometimes I wonder if that's the cause of my lack of romantic attraction. However, lately I have been thinking about it a lot and self-acceptance seems to be a little closer, though I still don't know my place in the aro spectrum. The thing that has been bothering the most lately is that some family members, especially my mother, keep telling me that it's impossible not to have a crush on anyone at my age (I'm turning 18 in September), and she's so desperate that she'd even be okay with me dating a girl. According to her not experimenting with Love™ is unhealthy, and she doesn't want me to end up by myself with no children or husband. I have told her very clearly that I don't want children, and being alone wouldn't really bother me (though I'd love to be in a QPR one day), and of course she's sure that sooner or later I'll change my mind. There's no way she would even try to understand asexuality, let alone aromanticism, so I guess I'll have to bear with her complaints until I leave for university. If in the future I were to actually change my mind (= discover a new side of my romantic/sexual orientation) that's great, but at the moment (and for my whole life) these are the labels that suit me the best. I wish asexuality and aromanticism had more visibility, so that they'd be acknowledged (and maybe even considered valid woohoo) more both by the general population and the LGBT+ community. Excuse me for the long post, I get carried away whenever I see other arospec/acespec people in forums. xD -------------------- |
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Jun 3 2016, 01:36 AM
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is deep in Hitaka Hell Group: +Donors Posts: 725 Joined: 27-May 10 Member No.: 97 935 Battle Subway Team |
June is Pride month! I posted this to the community forum, but I figured I'd share it here too since it was pointed out to me. Anyway, here's my sexuality:
I am part of the ace/aro spectrum. I am neither sexually attracted to people (asexual) nor am I physically/emotionally attracted to people, regardless of gender (aromantic) Personally I am sex-repulsed, but I do not have an issue with porn stuff (though I'd rather keep it at a fictional capacity) and I have next to no sex drive at all (beyond popular belief, ace people can have urges, but for many cases its rare to have) True story, but I didn't know what ace/aro even was until I hit middle school age (so 6-7th grade I believe) thanks to an online friend giving me the details. All my life I had no desire to date, I didn't have crushes, nor did I find people attractive in any way (I didn't/don't like it when people ask me stuff like "do you think this dress is pretty on me?" or "isn't this outfit/accessory cute?!" bc I literally cannot give you an opinion XD Its a bit of a curse actually lol) and I have been adamant about being single my whole life due to these factors. While I was never jealous of my family and friends dating people, I didn't understand why I didn't want to do it myself, but luckily that changed early on enough for me Being ace definitely has its struggles, but luckily for me I haven't really personally been a target for ridicule or had people give me the usual spiel of "its a phase" or "you just haven't found the right person yet" etc stuff that can be irksome (it helps that only my immediate family even knows and I have very understanding friends, both on and offline. I've mostly experienced it with my oldest sister even though she identifies as demisexual) Sadly I see acephobia all around and I have heard some pretty terrible stories, even from LGBT people, so I understand how hard it can be. I mostly get pretty upset over the lack of ace representation in the media, but my hope is that once LGBT people are more accepted in the world, then the rest of us can be treated with respect too. Baby steps are better than no steps at all, I say! -------------------- Need Social Network? PM me; 14/48 You can call me Sladin or Rocky (: Please do not use my icon for your personal use. Thank you |
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Jun 13 2016, 03:59 PM
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She Who Can Be Voracious Group: +Donors Posts: 2 808 Joined: 9-January 10 From: Flatland Member No.: 79 103 My Purple Ones |
Ugh, yet more violence against the LGBTQ community.
I hope everyone stays as safe as possible. It is so sad when places where people go to have fun get attacked, then no one will be able to feel safe anywhere. -------------------- Avatar by Cycloneblaze at Cycloneshop II Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/eevee64 Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/Baymax |
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Jul 17 2016, 02:43 PM
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She Who Can Be Voracious Group: +Donors Posts: 2 808 Joined: 9-January 10 From: Flatland Member No.: 79 103 My Purple Ones |
So maybe I should re-read the posts here again, but am I the only one that's posted so far who doesn't care what gender I am?
I guess I could be considered agender or genderfluid, according to something I saw on Reddit. -------------------- Avatar by Cycloneblaze at Cycloneshop II Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/eevee64 Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/Baymax |
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Jul 17 2016, 03:54 PM
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But that's none of my business. Group: Members Posts: 379 Joined: 27-March 16 From: Somewhere in Sinnoh Member No.: 240 129 The Dream Team! |
So, last week I went through an identity crisis.
I was watching videos on sexualities when I actually began to wonder whether or not I'm heterosexual or asexual. I mean, I've always identified as straight, because asexual people don't normally date other people (as I'm in a relationship as of this post), right? Though I've never had much of a drive, so I was still confused. As it turns out, there's a difference between being asexual (no sexual attraction) and being aromantic (no romantic attraction). So I guess I'm a heteroromantic asexual? Feels strange to be technically part of the LGBTQ community despite having friends in sexual minorities, but I don't believe it's a bad thing. -------------------- |
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Jul 17 2016, 08:00 PM
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She Who Can Be Voracious Group: +Donors Posts: 2 808 Joined: 9-January 10 From: Flatland Member No.: 79 103 My Purple Ones |
Hullo CUL, welcome! :]
Huh, I didn't know that there was something called aromantic, but I guess it makes sense. -------------------- Avatar by Cycloneblaze at Cycloneshop II Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/eevee64 Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/Baymax |
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Jul 20 2016, 08:57 PM
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Pokémon Trainer Group: Newbies Posts: 7 Joined: 1-February 16 Member No.: 238 595 Active Squad |
Hi there! I'm Ricky, I'm a panromantic asexual non-binary trans boy and I'm glad to see this kind of thread here!
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Jul 20 2016, 09:33 PM
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She Who Can Be Voracious Group: +Donors Posts: 2 808 Joined: 9-January 10 From: Flatland Member No.: 79 103 My Purple Ones |
Hullo Ricky! :]
May I ask what panromantic means? -------------------- Avatar by Cycloneblaze at Cycloneshop II Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/eevee64 Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/Baymax |
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Jul 21 2016, 02:21 PM
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Pokémon Trainer Group: Newbies Posts: 7 Joined: 1-February 16 Member No.: 238 595 Active Squad |
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Jul 21 2016, 04:00 PM
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She Who Can Be Voracious Group: +Donors Posts: 2 808 Joined: 9-January 10 From: Flatland Member No.: 79 103 My Purple Ones |
Thank you, I am learning still.
I don't care if I am male or female so I guess I am either agender or genderfluid. -------------------- Avatar by Cycloneblaze at Cycloneshop II Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/eevee64 Banner by http://gpx.plus/user/Baymax |
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Jul 23 2016, 12:15 PM
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Pokémon Trainer Group: Members Posts: 16 Joined: 22-July 09 From: Switzerland Member No.: 48 990 Active Squad |
@ Gryphaena: I do not care about my gender either! I tell people I identify as a girl simply because that's what I was assigned at birth and no explanations are needed. For me personally having a gender is completely unnecessary, and when I'm by myself I like to simply consider myself a person.
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