[X] My Assistant

[Liquefy]

Sorry to abuse the forums like this but I for real need to blow off some steam. Big wall of text coming, too, so...if you're really bored and want to play therapist then this is most definitely the topic for you.

So my brother (half brother, actually) Blake is six months older than me (this is a vital point as otherwise he'll sound like my twin) and he for real does anything possible to try and make me jealous, and all it does is piss me off. It's getting to the point now where it's seriously ridiculous.

I guess you need to know some other facts before I start going off.

Blake's always lived with his mom, who, for the record, is a money grubbing whore, but I'd never in my life talk about her to his face because, uh, duh, she's his mom (also vital for later) until he started getting into some deep shit lately (stealing a motorcycle, stealing, like, five chainsaws and selling them, trying to burn down a fucking house, every drug under the sun, drinking, etc. etc.) and I'm in no way a goodie goodie and yeah, I've been drunk several times and I've tried the drugs and I just really wasn't into it, but my ass wasn't stupid enough to get caught. ANYWAY, since he's been in trouble and been costing his mom more money than she can dish out, he's been moved here, meaning he has to go to a new school and everything.

So he came out in June and has been annoying the shit out of me ever since.

The first thing I can remember is him not doing his own fucking laundry or the dishes on his night. In this family, my mom sure as hell isn't cleaning up after everyone else and I'm not either, but Blake thinks we should, obviously, because when we have no clean dishes or he has no clean clothes, he just wants to bitch. So I told him one day that maybe if he did his laundry and the dishes on his night, that wouldn't be a damn problem and he for real blamed it on me. Seriously.

Another thing is that my dad FOR REAL plays favorites because Blake and my other brother (James) are all into cars and shit that he's into and they're just as stupid as he is (seriously. He asked me how to spell twelve until I was, like, fifteen), and I'm too smart for him and I couldn't tell you what a calibrator is if my life depended on it. Anyway, since they're stupid and like cars and crap like him, he favors them tremendously over me. It's obvious. Anyway, on the last day of band camp I SERIOUSLY didn't want to put up with his shit, so I was getting cocky with him whenever he tried to start something and my dad had the nerve to tell me that I was being a smart ass little bitch.

I've had a really close friend, Summer, since I was about five. We're seriously like brother and sister. Anyway, he knows that Summer and I are very close, so he's all of a sudden showing interest in her. He's never even felt like looking at her since she beat the shit out of him in third grade and all of a sudden he wants to be her best friend. What. the. fuck.

A couple of other things that I have against Blake is that he fully supports antihomosexuality, animal cruelty, and general non-animal/human rights, and he shoves it in my face constantly by using gay as an insult, calling people fags, and kicking my dog (which I for real chewed his ass out for and he said I abuse him worse, wtf). I am totally left wing and thing that people and animals of all kinds should be able to do whatever the hell they want because that was what America was founded on, granted it's changed tremendously since hardly anybody but white upper class Christians have rights these days, but whatever, and Blake claims to be all into democrats and shit but he for real didn't even know that Hilary Clinton was running for president or even who Barak Obama was. The only reason why he claims to be democrat is because of Bush's stupid ass.

Going all the way back to the beginning when I said I'd never talk about his mom now. He seriously hates my mom for no reason at all and constantly talks about her to my face and pretty much does his best to piss me off when I bring her up, like today when I checked the door to make sure that my dad didn't accidentally lock us out? He seriously brought up the other day when my mom locked the door when he was outside and said that she did it on purpose when I was the one who told her that he wasn't even outside.

I dunno, it just seems like he's made me hate my entire family because almost all of my cousins that I used to be really attached to stopped talking to me when he moved over here and started spending ass loads of time with him. It's just really unfair that I have to put up with this shit and my dad never does anything about it. I would keep writing but I'm calling Summer now and telling her that I need to talk to her about something really important, so...yeah. If you read this, I hope you've got some advice, if not then...well, obviously you didn't read this part either so you suck donkey balls. Hehe. I insulted you and you weren't even paying attention. *naughty*

[Big Bidoof]

I kinda know how you feel. My younger brother has a lot more in common with my parents than I do, and although they both deny it, it's obvious that they pick favourites with him, especially my dad who, was a younger brother as well. Basically, when my brother gets on my nerves, I just rub it in his face that he just spent the past month in summer school for English and Math, and how he'll never do jack shit after high school, etc. etc. where as I've already been accepted at university, and am getting good money for it, etc. etc. I dunno if this applies to you at all, but it's fun to see my brother throw shit fits cause I constantly call him retarded. :laugh:

[Black Ice]

Blake? Summer? Local time: 8:30? I think I may know you IRL. D^=

My dad can't pick favourites because I'm the only child. But my mom likes my cousin more than me just 'cuz he actually takes care of his parents. It's not like a 14-year-old can work in a casino and get $150 a night, though, so I don't exactly see the point. >.>;

This post probably didn't contribute much...or anything, for that matter.

[Guest_Dark Knight_*]

So just ignore this fellow, and get on with things. I'm convinced he will become bored and leave you alone eventually, or do something so monumentally stupid that your father cannot but help to notice and react to it.

Too many people are too content to bitch about their problems online, whilst allowing them to continue regardless. This may seem harsh, but if you allow your semi-sibling to irk you, you've only yourself to blame.

[MCRrock3r]

So just ignore this fellow, and get on with things. I'm convinced he will become bored and leave you alone eventually, or do something so monumentally stupid that your father cannot but help to notice and react to it.

Too many people are too content to bitch about their problems online, whilst allowing them to continue regardless. This may seem harsh, but if you allow your semi-sibling to irk you, you've only yourself to blame.

How is it his fault? Do you even have younger siblings?

I know how you feel man. My sister dosen't do anything but eat and watch T.V. She makes EVERYONE angry in my house and my parents won't admit to it.

[Guest_Dark Knight_*]

I do have a younger sibling - a sister, who has been nothing but a problem her entire life. Despite being a bitch, she was my father's favourite. Whilst I was regularly beaten up and abused as a child, she got away with almost everything. A lot of what she did was blamed on me. But I don't let her get to me, and I certainly don't let her antics affect my life any more.

I know how he feels, but I don't see how ineffectual bitching helps the situation. He needs to do something about it, not whine on forums.

[Liquefy]

I don't see how venting is "bitching". You obviously missed the entire section about my dad playing favorites, too. No matter WHAT he does, my dad doesn't care. Him doing something stupid won't change anything, and I can't change anything because my dad is a dumbass, and, you know, it's hard to ignore somebody when they live with you and has to be in the same places as you and interacts with you on a daily basis. It's also pretty hard to ignore someone when they're your ride to and from school, so your "advice" is null.

Back to my apparent bitching...you act as if venting is something bad. I can't yell and scream at the top of my lungs to get out my frustration, I'm sorry, I live with other people and consider their feelings. If I talk to anybody, my dad finds out about it and I'm in trouble. No matter what I do, I can't win unless I just vent in a way that he will never find out about, and that's either text messaging, which takes too long, or the internet. Forums are public places to discuss opinions and day to day life. My annoying brother just happens to be part of my day to day life, and telling me to quit "bitching" is basically telling me that I can't post about my day, for he pretty much was my day that day. Thank you so much for your "helpful advice", I took it into consideration and decided that I don't care.

[Guest_Dark Knight_*]

Suit yourself. But you'll never get away from it with that kind of attitude, and you will come to realise very quickly, even if you don't admit to it, that this doesn't help at all. The kind of emotions that well up and fester inside of you because of this prolonged exposure to a hateful influence cannot be expurgated with a text message or a forum post. Before you even realise it, you will grow into a very angry, bitter individual, and then you'll wonder why you can't go back to the person you were before.

I didn't miss your mention of your father, and you might notice I mentioned my own similar problem in that regard. It is hardly an insurmountable obstacle. Perhaps a very lofty and difficult one, but there are very few people in the world stupid enough not to notice someone else doing something monumentally stupid or wrong. Homer Simpson and Hitler are the only two names that come to mind readily, and I somehow doubt that your parent is akin to either.

When I said ignore your brother, you evidently took this literally, and thought I meant to avoid him physically. Well, that would be the optimal strategy, but if you can't for reasons that cannot be circumvented, you simply need to think outside that slightly moist and structurally unsound cardboard box that acts as a metaphor for your imagination. Ignore him by not reacting to his actions, rising to his taunts or pranks. Do not give him the satisfaction of knowing that he is angering you, or affecting you in any way. This means don't say anything, don't allow your expression to change, don't even look at him. It's bloody hard, but without the satisfaction of the rise he is currently garnering from you, he will either grow bored and go away to antagonise someone or something else, or he will do something stupid or nasty enough to provoke even your recalcitrant father. Either of which will ultimately work in your favour.

Someone who simply surrenders to a problem, and retreats to some form (or in this case forum) of relative sanctuary will never really escape or overcome their problems. And fighting back in kind, reacting to his cruelty and immaturity with some of your own, or even just smacking the insufferable little prick, lowers you to his level and ensures that he must escalate the situation to save face. He will retaliate in a way that is worse than before.

You need to be clever about your opposition. Cunning. Make it look like you're not actually opposing him, whilst still not bowing to his manipulation. Perhaps you should read up on strategy and tactics, if you can drag yourself away from your pity party long enough.

I'm sorry, but I consider you to be pathetic as you are. And I can speak with conviction because I have been pathetic myself. Only you can decide how your life goes, and it is up to you to impose your will. You can be respectful of others and still not cowtow to them. The two things are not mutually inclusive. If you want to scream, just go somewhere else more isolated and scream. If you simply sit on your computer chair and think of reasons why it isn't your fault and you can't possibly change anything, then do not look to me for sympathy, because it will not be forthcoming. And you might argue that you don't want my sympathy, but if that were the case you would not be posting here. You did so because you expected people to go "awww, diddums, there there, you're so right". Well I'm not going to, and that clearly angered you. Tough shit.

You need to grow up and face life like a man, and if you're intelligent enough, you might do it without succumbing to some bullshit macho stereotype which is the common approach suggested by our society, or some weak-arsed namby-pamby crap you'd get out of a psychologist or an ineffectual friend.

Think what you may, my contempt for you right now is meant in the best possible way.

[Big Bidoof]

I can't yell and scream at the top of my lungs to get out my frustration, I'm sorry, I live with other people and consider their feelings. If I talk to anybody, my dad finds out about it and I'm in trouble.

Pillow + face works miracles.

[Commander Wymsy]

I can't yell and scream at the top of my lungs to get out my frustration, I'm sorry, I live with other people and consider their feelings. If I talk to anybody, my dad finds out about it and I'm in trouble.

Pillow + face works miracles.

I prefer punching or smacking somebody's face personally, but I'm a bit of a violent person.

[Big Bidoof]

Well, pillow + face if you wanna yell without being heard. << I think punching someone in the face kinda defeats the whole 'not being heard' part, personally.

[Commander Wymsy]

Well, pillow + face if you wanna yell without being heard. << I think punching someone in the face kinda defeats the whole 'not being heard' part, personally.

So? Telling someone off using blunt honestly always makes me feel good, because I'm not keeping stuff bottled up inside.

[MCRrock3r]

Well, pillow + face if you wanna yell without being heard. << I think punching someone in the face kinda defeats the whole 'not being heard' part, personally.

So? Telling someone off using blunt honestly always makes me feel good, because I'm not keeping stuff bottled up inside.

I agree.

@Cookie: Are you strong? If you are beat the living crap out of him. Aside form getting in trouble you'll feel much better.

[Liquefy]

I...don't consider myself strong, no XD I'm just now losing my summer chub >_> Thank god for band camp XD

[MCRrock3r]

I...don't consider myself strong, no XD I'm just now losing my summer chub >_> Thank god for band camp XD

Guns and Knives work better then Sticks and Stones

Sorry if I'm not helping much. Thinking about killing people makes me feel better.

[GrsnDark]

I...don't consider myself strong, no XD I'm just now losing my summer chub >_> Thank god for band camp XD

Guns and Knives work better then Sticks and Stones

Sorry if I'm not helping much. Thinking about killing people makes me feel better.

OOOOHHHHH MMMMYYYYY Godddddddddd whats wrong with you people.
Violence doesn't solve anything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it only makes things worse!!!
and for the dude thats having trouble with his half-brother (I did read your whole story because i had nothing else to do, and was kind of interesting to me) just do what i do and ignore him. I know it may sound impossible at first, but if you stick to it, your life will be easier (i got quite some experience when it comes to brother vs brother situations) also by the looks of it you're merging yourself into a cage without noticing it. get out of home. hang out with your friend. In fact, if you're desperate, find a job (if you don't have one already) that will keep you away from home and will also get you money$$$$$$$. The more you stay away from home the better. Also, what are video games for? do something constructive with your time. go to a park and meet new people and do some exercise.

I'm just giving you my honest opinion, but if you feel like this advise wont help, you can just ignore it.

[Liquefy]

This advice won't help. Because I posted this in August, eight months ago.