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Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 1 2015, 05:10 PM

Um, I think there has probably been a thread for this in all the years in the Forums but I looked through 5 pages of General Discussion and didn't see any.

Please forgive me, Mods, if there was a very popular thread in the past that I could've resurrected.

Uh, I'm thinking this can be a place to share our stories (like some of us did in the June Chat Thread).

Maybe talk about how supportive or restrictive our countries are with us, if we're closeted or not, anything really.

If you don't like us, please stay out of the thread or be civil with us or you'll be reported for harassment.

If you have questions about us, you might find people willing to speak to you.

If drama occurs, try to work it out privately but resort to moderators if needed.

There's still lots of things for me to learn, I started going to my campus' Gay Straight Alliance meetings but I haven't been going regularly. -_-.gif

I have been a member of the San Diego Women's Chorus which is a lesbian identified chorus but any woman can join.

About myself:

I am a woman who doesn't care what gender I am,

I am living with a mental illness,

I take medication,

I am also a little autistic.

I am raised Catholic but trying to figure if that is my real religion,

I think I'm bi-curious at the moment,

I am of Filipino descent, and

I live in the United States.



Finally, I hope this becomes a big happy thread. :]





Posted by: Cycloneblaze Jul 2 2015, 05:25 AM

Well, I'm all straight and boring so I don't think I'll contribute much to this thread. But I do want to say I also hope this becomes a big happy thread for the LGBT members of our community! I've chatted to plenty of you, and y'all are awesome. happy.gif

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 2 2015, 05:29 AM

QUOTE(Cycloneblaze @ Jul 2 2015, 03:25 AM) *
Well, I'm all straight and boring so I don't think I'll contribute much to this thread. But I do want to say I also hope this becomes a big happy thread for the LGBT members of our community! I've chatted to plenty of you, and y'all are awesome. happy.gif


Ah, shoot, did I forget that friendly people of all types are welcome here? Maybe I should edit my first post.

But thank you, Cyclone for being the first person to reply.

I was laughing at myself at how unpopular this thread was. xD

Is it because the way I set it up, posting in here is essentially outing yourself?


Posted by: Manah Jul 2 2015, 09:57 AM

Maybe you just need to give people time to find this thread/be online at all? x) It's not that old yet.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 2 2015, 12:00 PM

QUOTE(Manah @ Jul 2 2015, 07:57 AM) *
Maybe you just need to give people time to find this thread/be online at all? x) It's not that old yet.


I guess I am being impatient.

Posted by: SpectreGuy Jul 2 2015, 12:54 PM

Haven't seen a lot of discussion on the General board in a long while, so replies to this topic'll probably be slow. No worries, though.

Personally, I consider myself pansexual (or the lack of gender or sex preference). Some people don't consider that real, and that's okay I guess. Never really bothered me either way. I'm not really closeted about it, other than to my family, because they're all very religious and would probably never treat me the same if I was open about it with them, unfortunately.

As far as genders go, I never bothered with it, so I guess I identify with my current sex. It's easier that way.

I'm not in a homosexual relationship currently, but I was happy to hear the Supreme Court ruling earlier this week. That was nice. Good to see the United States getting with the times.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 2 2015, 01:00 PM

QUOTE(SpectreGuy @ Jul 2 2015, 10:54 AM) *
Haven't seen a lot of discussion on the General board in a long while, so replies to this topic'll probably be slow. No worries, though.

Personally, I consider myself pansexual (or the lack of gender or sex preference). Some people don't consider that real, and that's okay I guess. Never really bothered me either way. I'm not really closeted about it, other than to my family, because they're all very religious and would probably never treat me the same if I was open about it with them, unfortunately.

As far as genders go, I never bothered with it, so I guess I identify with my current sex. It's easier that way.

I'm not in a homosexual relationship currently, but I was happy to hear the Supreme Court ruling earlier this week. That was nice. Good to see the United States getting with the times.


I think I can tell my Aunt and my older sister about how I am but probably not the rest of my nuclear family.

I was pleased about the Supreme Court ruling as well.

Then there are those people that are saying "It shouldn't have been national news."

Imo, it was a more deserving national news piece than Caitlyn Jenner's debut.


Posted by: Lord Raven Jul 2 2015, 02:35 PM

QUOTE(Cycloneblaze @ Jul 2 2015, 03:25 AM) *
Well, I'm all straight and boring so I don't think I'll contribute much to this thread. But I do want to say I also hope this becomes a big happy thread for the LGBT members of our community! I've chatted to plenty of you, and y'all are awesome. happy.gif

Straight is not boring, women are the best species of human being alive

Posted by: SpectreGuy Jul 2 2015, 03:21 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 2 2015, 12:00 PM) *
Then there are those people that are saying "It shouldn't have been national news."

Imo, it was a more deserving national news piece than Caitlyn Jenner's debut.

I agree. The idea that a Supreme Court decision shouldn't be national news is so outrageously silly.

Posted by: Manah Jul 2 2015, 03:27 PM

So they're an entirely different species now? ... ... On second thought though...
Joking aside, people think I'm a woman just because I'm biologically female and happen to be ok with it, but nope. I have no idea what those weird creatures are, I'm not one of them. '__' Might be the whole "women are emotional", which I'm not. Asexual and aromantic too.

I really can't be bothered to put more effort in a gender identity I don't even care about. (Just need to figure out how to get the "but there's this one thing I'm absolutely not ok with" feeling across to people who think I'm just a regular woman. =/ )

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 2 2015, 04:25 PM

QUOTE(Manah @ Jul 2 2015, 01:27 PM) *
So they're an entirely different species now? ... ... On second thought though...
Joking aside, people think I'm a woman just because I'm biologically female and happen to be ok with it, but nope. I have no idea what those weird creatures are, I'm not one of them. '__' Might be the whole "women are emotional", which I'm not. Asexual and aromantic too.

I really can't be bothered to put more effort in a gender identity I don't even care about. (Just need to figure out how to get the "but there's this one thing I'm absolutely not ok with" feeling across to people who think I'm just a regular woman. =/ )


As someone said in the July thread, you cchoose how to define yourself, then live it out to the best you can.

at least, i think someone said something to that effect.

Posted by: Manah Jul 2 2015, 04:37 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 2 2015, 11:25 PM) *
As someone said in the July thread, you cchoose how to define yourself, then live it out to the best you can.

at least, i think someone said something to that effect.

Which doesn't really help when I need to convince someone to get surgical help removing something that I'm supposed to think is the greatest thing ever for women. dry.gif Well, I guess recurring self mutilation dreams may help get the point across.

I really don't care what I am, it's just that the expectations of others can get tiring when they're not easily avoidable.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 2 2015, 04:40 PM

QUOTE(Manah @ Jul 2 2015, 02:37 PM) *
QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 2 2015, 11:25 PM) *
As someone said in the July thread, you cchoose how to define yourself, then live it out to the best you can.

at least, i think someone said something to that effect.

Which doesn't really help when I need to convince someone to get surgical help removing something that I'm supposed to think is the greatest thing ever for women. dry.gif Well, I guess recurring self mutilation dreams may help get the point across.

I really don't care what I am, it's just that the expectations of others can get tiring when they're not easily avoidable.


Oh man. Can you find another doctor surgeon who will listen to you?

I'm sorry I can't truly empathize with your situation, i don't like the idea of anything entering me other than food.

i do not think of surgeries.


Posted by: Manah Jul 2 2015, 04:52 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 2 2015, 11:40 PM) *
Oh man. Can you find another doctor surgeon who will listen to you?

I'm sorry I can't truly empathize with your situation, i don't like the idea of anything entering me other than food.

i do not think of surgeries.

I haven't really told anyone yet, I'm just planning ahead. I need plans and strategies to do pretty much anything important. happy.gif

I'm not a fan of surgery either, but if something has to be removed... *shrugs* I'd just prefer it if I could ask someone to do it without any discussion and whys and buts.

Posted by: Azor Ahai Jul 3 2015, 02:10 AM

Why are straight guys in here. rolleyes.gif

I thought I was straight until I was asked out by a guy and didn't refuse, hell I even thought it would be cool. I have developed feelings for him and even if we were to breakup I think that I'd continue to date both sexes, so I'm bisexual. Reading your stories have opened up my eyes even more to the overall community and the struggle each faction faces, its cheesy of me to say but even though its a tough road ahead, we'll make it through together. smug.gif

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 3 2015, 03:11 PM

QUOTE(Azor Ahai @ Jul 3 2015, 12:10 AM) *
Why are straight guys in here. rolleyes.gif

I thought I was straight until I was asked out by a guy and didn't refuse, hell I even thought it would be cool. I have developed feelings for him and even if we were to breakup I think that I'd continue to date both sexes, so I'm bisexual. Reading your stories have opened up my eyes even more to the overall community and the struggle each faction faces, its cheesy of me to say but even though its a tough road ahead, we'll make it through together. smug.gif


I see no problem with straight people being in the thread, they're being friendly and not antagonistic.

Thank you for being comfortable enough to talk about yourself here. :]

If we stand together and unite we will be strong.


Posted by: Azor Ahai Jul 9 2015, 02:45 AM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 3 2015, 04:11 PM) *
QUOTE(Azor Ahai @ Jul 3 2015, 12:10 AM) *
Why are straight guys in here. rolleyes.gif

I thought I was straight until I was asked out by a guy and didn't refuse, hell I even thought it would be cool. I have developed feelings for him and even if we were to breakup I think that I'd continue to date both sexes, so I'm bisexual. Reading your stories have opened up my eyes even more to the overall community and the struggle each faction faces, its cheesy of me to say but even though its a tough road ahead, we'll make it through together. smug.gif


I see no problem with straight people being in the thread, they're being friendly and not antagonistic.

Thank you for being comfortable enough to talk about yourself here. :]

If we stand together and unite we will be strong.


It was a cheeky glib from me, of course they're welcome.

You're right.

Posted by: Stinko Jul 13 2015, 06:46 PM

im in a hetero relationship right now, but im bisexual. the only downside to my sexuality is all the stereotypes and hearing that my sexuality isn't "valid". im just glad that my boyfriend understands me and accepts me for who i am despite all the negative stereotypes surrounding bisexuality. u vu

regarding gender, i actually had a bit of a crisis with this a month or so ago. i didn't feel like either gender, though i had feminine tendencies at times. lovely people on tumblr helped me and i now identify as agenderflux. :) ive only told my boyfriend about this yet again and he 100% supports me and has even been trying to use correct pronouns (even tho im fine with she/her still). im glad i managed to find someone so supportive of me.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 13 2015, 06:57 PM

QUOTE(Stinko @ Jul 13 2015, 04:46 PM) *
im in a hetero relationship right now, but im bisexual. the only downside to my sexuality is all the stereotypes and hearing that my sexuality isn't "valid". im just glad that my boyfriend understands me and accepts me for who i am despite all the negative stereotypes surrounding bisexuality. u vu

regarding gender, i actually had a bit of a crisis with this a month or so ago. i didn't feel like either gender, though i had feminine tendencies at times. lovely people on tumblr helped me and i now identify as agenderflux. happy.gif ive only told my boyfriend about this yet again and he 100% supports me and has even been trying to use correct pronouns (even tho im fine with she/her still). im glad i managed to find someone so supportive of me.


Everyone who wants a relationship should be able to find that wonderful, understanding person. It's awesome that you found him. :]

As I said, I'm still learning about this community.

Would you be comfortable sharing a few common stereotypes about bisexual people?

Posted by: Stinko Jul 13 2015, 07:04 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 13 2015, 04:57 PM) *
Everyone who wants a relationship should be able to find that wonderful, understanding person. It's awesome that you found him. :]

As I said, I'm still learning about this community.

Would you be comfortable sharing a few common stereotypes about bisexual people?

sure! ill list the ones i know off the top of my head. a lot of people assume that bisexual people are just "confused" on which sex they are interested, and others just find them flat out greedy for being interested in both. some people also think that bisexual people are the quickest to cheat in a relationship because of their two sex preference. or that bisexuals sleep around a lot.

most of the stereotypes ive seen have been that sort of thing. i know that there are some people in the lgbt community that dont want to include bisexuals, especially if they are in a hetero relationship. it's just stupid stuff in my opinion, but i cant do much except prove people wrong through my actions.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 13 2015, 07:07 PM

QUOTE(Stinko @ Jul 13 2015, 05:04 PM) *
QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 13 2015, 04:57 PM) *
Everyone who wants a relationship should be able to find that wonderful, understanding person. It's awesome that you found him. :]

As I said, I'm still learning about this community.

Would you be comfortable sharing a few common stereotypes about bisexual people?

sure! ill list the ones i know off the top of my head. a lot of people assume that bisexual people are just "confused" on which sex they are interested, and others just find them flat out greedy for being interested in both. some people also think that bisexual people are the quickest to cheat in a relationship because of their two sex preference. or that bisexuals sleep around a lot.

most of the stereotypes ive seen have been that sort of thing. i know that there are some people in the lgbt community that dont want to include bisexuals, especially if they are in a hetero relationship. it's just stupid stuff in my opinion, but i cant do much except prove people wrong through my actions.


So bisexuals are sorta looked down on in the community if they're in a straight relationship? I find that rather sad.

I guess our actions are the only way we can prove others wrong.

Posted by: Stinko Jul 13 2015, 07:09 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 13 2015, 05:07 PM) *
So bisexuals are sorta looked down on in the community if they're in a straight relationship? I find that rather sad.

I guess our actions are the only way we can prove others wrong.

yeah, but not everyone looks down on us. there are tons of people who are supportive of bisexuals along with all the other sexualities which is great to see. there will always be toxic and negative people in a community. it just comes down to tuning them out and continuing to do what you do.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 13 2015, 07:10 PM

QUOTE(Stinko @ Jul 13 2015, 05:09 PM) *
yeah, but not everyone looks down on us. there are tons of people who are supportive of bisexuals along with all the other sexualities which is great to see. there will always be toxic and negative people in a community. it just comes down to tuning them out and continuing to do what you do.


Yeah, there's always going to be some bad apples in the batch.

Posted by: Heal Jul 13 2015, 10:20 PM

I'm bisexual but currently in a het relationship.

sometimes I feel like I'm not allowed to be included in LGBTQ things because I didn't really think of myself as bi till maybe december/january? idk, I'm scared of pushing myself into a safe space that I shouldn't be. I've never been in a relationship with a female so sometimes I'm afraid of being taken the wrong way or something... ; q ;

Posted by: Azor Ahai Jul 13 2015, 11:24 PM

What I've seen as it pertains to bisexuals is that when it is made public one seems to almost always face the stereotype of being in the closet, as having the identifying orientation of being bisexual, (some of) those whom are attracted to solely their same gender use it as a stepping stone to fully coming out. The gay people that I've come across and the pieces that I've read have suggested that those who use it as a leeway into fully accepting themselves think that it would "soften the blow" of coming out to those who have a hard time accepting one outside of the heteronormative. It isn't done in malice but it has real negative consequences to those that are actually bi because one tends to assume that this person is simply contending with themselves over being gay. The promiscuous slander is done out of the thought process of us being "greedy" and that one sex can never satisfy us, so if we are dating a woman we'd most likely cheat with a man as a woman does not possess the element a male can bring to us and vice versa, another example of the homophobic viewpoint in ignorance.

Another problem is that some women have a hard time being with a man who has the capacity to be with another man, she worries that she cannot satisfy him which is another ignorant view. Bisexual women also face the stigma of their sexuality being an attempt to be "special" and that they could never be satisfied with another woman as men are soo great, an example of one who cannot fathom an option or answer outside of the heterosexual.


QUOTE(Heal @ Jul 13 2015, 11:20 PM) *
I'm bisexual but currently in a het relationship.

sometimes I feel like I'm not allowed to be included in LGBTQ things because I didn't really think of myself as bi till maybe december/january? idk, I'm scared of pushing myself into a safe space that I shouldn't be. I've never been in a relationship with a female so sometimes I'm afraid of being taken the wrong way or something... ; q ;


If you feel comfortable enough to identifyyourself as bisexual then you are definitely included, hell, even if you were straigth as the LGBT+ movement affects us all.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 16 2015, 10:40 AM

Wow, that's a lot to think about, Azor.

@Heal: I don't think you have to have a relationship with a person of the same or opposite sex to figure out you're part of that group.

My Aunt told me there are nuns who consider themselves lesbian but they stay celibate.

I think I'm going to stay celibate, I know I definitely shouldn't be a parent right now.

My position might change in the future, but I don't think so.



Posted by: kaseykg Jul 17 2015, 11:16 AM

I'm basically still in the closet.
Im a 22 year old bisexual female. Sexually I am more attracted to women, but emotionally I am more attracted to men. Anything I've had with a woman was always purely sexual, and therefore I typically feel there isnt a need for me to share my orientation with most people. I have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years and we plan on getting married some time in the next 5. If I am ever with a woman again it would be someone we bring into our bedroom, which is another reason I feel no need to tell most people. My close friends, boyfriend, and one family member knows. If someone were to out right ask me I wouldn't lie, but its not something I just go telling everyone.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 17 2015, 12:00 PM

@kaseykg: I've only had crushes when i was younger (say middle school and high school) so i wasn't aware that it is possible for emotional attraction and sexual attraction to be separate.

It's wonderful that you've found the person you plan to marry. :]

Posted by: DJ Majja Kool Jul 26 2015, 10:58 PM

@reply above: Romantic attraction is separate from sexual attraction. Most people experience both, but there are some people who only experience romantic attraction, some who only experience sexual attraction, and some who don't experience either. AVEN (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) is a good place to find more information on the topic :]

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 27 2015, 10:29 AM

@DJ Majja: Thank you for the information. I'll look up AVEN when I can.

Posted by: Mikaku Onchi Jul 29 2015, 03:45 PM

I'm an assexual female, only fell in love with women and had a...disgusting situation with a man. I'm not confortable enough to talk about it here but that didn't made me feel sick of men in general. Like you Gryphaena, I suffer from a mental illness (bipolar disorder), which is pretty much stable thanks to the medication I'm taking.
Like bisexual people, assexuals are sometimes unaccepted by society because people keep saying we don't "exist", that this is just a phase and we're just confused. "Oh it just happens because you haven't had sex yet, when you have you'll like it". NO. It isn't like that. Many assexuals had sex, just don't feel any sexual attraction and any will to have sex.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 29 2015, 09:03 PM

@ Mikaku: I hope the people close to you understand and are supportive of your situation.

I'm glad my medication doesn't have the annoying side effect of making me thirsty like my previous one did.

It was not fun.

I read a comment on another website of forums that went something like "straights are called straights because they haven't lost their marbles".

I wonder why there are still people that don't understand that homosexuality is not a mental illness.

Posted by: Takahashi Aug 12 2015, 07:26 PM

hello yes I'm just tiny pansexual girl with a bisexual boyfriend ayyy

I've had my fair share of experimentation in my life, since over the past couple years (like last 5) I've transitioned from a cisgendered girl to a transguy to agender and back to cis female. I honestly feel like agender is the closest thing to how I feel but I'm too lazy to correct people and dont care enough for it either. It's been a wild ride..

i never dated a boy until my past 2 relationships and ive been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now....

i honestly just dont care enough about labels to cover myself with them.

(also my borderline personality disorder feels)

Posted by: Gryphaena Aug 12 2015, 11:04 PM

@Takahashi: Hello! I'm glad people still see my thread. :]

Apparently some people have the Acronyms as "LGBTQI" and the I stands for intersex, as in the people who were born with both male and female parts.

They are part of society but many have undergone surgery when they could not choose (meaning as infants) that determined if they would be considered male or female by a society that prefers to keep things simple.

I think I should revise the title to include them as well.

What do you think?

Here is a link to the Intersex Society of North America if curious. http://www.isna.org/node/138

I would think that other countries have their own societies but this was the second result when i searched Google with the phrase "intersex people are mutilated".

Posted by: SilverKitChase Sep 5 2015, 11:12 PM

First of all I just want to say WOW! I had zero hope of seeing anything about Asexuality in this thread and I think I could cry I'm so happy.

First things first, I'm AFAB and I just turned 21. I identify as Asexual, Demi-panromantic and Nonbinary. I actually just got home from a conference like two or three weeks ago on Queer Theory, Religion and Science, VERY interesting, almost nothing about Asexuality though.

As an Asexual I feel... isolated? Bisexuals, Pansexuals and Asexuals are all sort of left out of the LGBT+ Community, which is absolutely ridiculous. Humans suffer from a very Binary way of thinking. Male/Female. Boy/Girl. Rich/Poor. Straight/Gay. So on and so forth. So people who fall somewhere outside those binaries get excluded and unfortunately pressured into trying to fit in as much as possible. So in the LGBT+ community, you have the "normal" (What's acceptable), and then you have the abnormal (sexualities that involve attraction to more then one gender or none at all).

Like Bisexuals and Pansexuals, Asexuals are either told that they're in the closet, or really just straight and trying to be a "special snowflake". While Heterosexuals can understand homosexuality or even bi and pansexuality on SOME level, No one can really understand asexuality in the same way that Asexuals can't really understand Allosexuals. How do you understand a feeling you've never experienced? How do you understand the lack of a feeling that you consider essential to being human?

There's a real problem with a lack of education, at least in America. It has taken me 7 or 8 years to understand my SEXUAL orientation. The past 2 or 3 were spent on separating Sexual and Romantic Orientation. And for the moment I use Nonbinary because it feels right and it gives me a sense of who I am but that is still very much a new area of study and self exploration. I've only been questioning that for about a year. But I bring up education because the LACK of education about gender identities and sexuality caused me a LOT of suffering. For instance, When I was a kid I SWORE I was a boy. I was 110% sure that I would NEVER develop breasts. I HATED being "female". When I cut my hair short and started refusing to wear female clothes, I hated being dragged out of the women's restrooms by people who didn't know me. Thankfully I've sort of come to accept that I'm not really either gender but it took SO much longer then it should have.

Another thing the lack of education royally screwed up was in teaching about Sexuality. Not going to get into details but going through high school, seeing people making out against doors, hearing them talk about their SO's... it REALLY screwed me up. I had Boyfriends. I don't think I was ever single for more then a month or two during high school... But the only word you could really use to describe me would have been naive. I thought hormones were a myth. And then I thought I was broken. Cause sure I LIKED my boyfriends, I Loved them. But I had zero sexual desire directed towards them. I couldn't figure out why I didn't seem to want what everybody else wanted. I've never had sex. But I did let people touch me in ways that I HATED because I thought that would fix me.

I have a severe social anxiety disorder, a general anxiety disorder, depression and a sensory processing disorder. They all affect one another. I'm sure I don't have to explain anxiety or depression but the sensory thing is a bit different and a newer field of research. I get very easily overloaded which causes me to have panic attacks. My biggest triggers are sound and touch. I only bring this up because my anxiety disorders started to get really bad in high school. They get worse every year. But to this day I have problems touching myself to get clean or get dressed because I start to panic. I never consented to what my bf did. But I also never said no. I had no idea not experiencing sexual attraction was even an option.

I haven't met many asexuals so I really REALLY hope my story doesn't mirror theirs. But the people I have met and talked to all seem to share those feelings of being "broken" and not understanding what was going on around them during puberty and high school. It's not okay. "Alternatve" sexualities are erased in the discussion of sexuality when they really need to be brought to the front. The binary way of thinking is natural. Us against them. But it's wrong. And it needs to change so that other people don't share some of these experiences.

tldr; asexuality is a lot like bisexuality and pansexuality in terms of erasure and sexual education needs to be seriously looked at and changed to people don't have experiences with lasting effects.

I hope some of what I said isn't too garbled... It's late. And I also apologize for the length of the reply, like I said I just got back from a conference where this was a theme so I have a lot to say on the topic. Also again I appreciate seeing stuff about asexuality here.

Posted by: Gryphaena Sep 6 2015, 08:06 AM

Thank you for sharing your perspective.

I'm glad there are conferences now about Queer Theory.

Was it affirming for you to attend it?

Posted by: SilverKitChase Sep 6 2015, 02:31 PM

Yeah it was wink.gif It was with a group called IRAS (Institute on Religion in an Age of Science), and despite the fact that the talks were all very high level (given by people with advanced degrees), when you could talk to someone casually during meals or breaks it was really easy to understand them and share information. Plus it was a great place to start discussions on Asexuality and gender identities without feeling judged. I made a LOT of friends.

Posted by: Gryphaena Nov 8 2015, 10:08 AM

Are any of you part of Gay-Straight Alliance clubs?

The one on my campus is probably going to be re-tooled next semester.

The advisor is irresponsible and they need to fix the constitution, it's decades old.

Posted by: Rosalind Lutece Nov 19 2015, 03:14 AM

It's been a minute since anyone's posted, but I'll say this-

I'm also Asexual. I guess it's kinda just me identifying this way because I've never felt any kind of infatuation to anyone. I really have kinda a hard time warming up to people I don't know in real life. I don't like to talk unless I know that someone will listen, which for some weird reason includes myself so I pretty much talk to myself.

Most of my family kinda has left me alone on this topic. I mean, I pretty much spelled it out to them that I'm not interested in anyone. The only thing that I haven't done is slap a name on it.

But we do exist. It's a real thing. Just to have people open their minds that it's not weird or abnormal to not want to be with anyone in a relationship. I kinda wish I knew about this high school.

Posted by: Gryphaena Nov 19 2015, 10:09 PM

@Rosalind: Yeah, high school is when it seemed to me that peers wanted to pair off.

I didn't feel any pressure though.

I don't think I'm asexual, I was watching parts of Fantasia last night and I thought the black father pegasus looked pretty attractive.

If I were a female pegasus of course.

I think the so-called "deviant" thing about me is that I feel like it shouldn't matter what gender I am.

I'm just a human being.

I'm a biological female that has collarbone length hair and I've been mistaken for a guy once when I have my hair in a ponytail.

Sometimes I feel like wearing a skirt or putting flowers in my hair.

I very rarely wear jewelry.

And I notice attractive members of both sexes.

I haven't had the courage to ask anyone out yet, though.

I want to have an income to speak of first though.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jan 2 2016, 11:07 PM

I hope everyone had great holidays that celebrated! :]

Perhaps this is the year when societies won't stand for killing fellow human beings just because of who they're attracted to, even though the other person (or people) are legal and consenting?



Posted by: Kunai Youki Jan 3 2016, 06:20 PM

I really do hope so, and the trans* community being put under as a joke of the social norm, that may be nice if it stopped too.

People should be more open to this, yes, but unfortunately if you have things pushed in your face all the time by the media, people just think way worse if it and make way more stereotypes and jokes about it.


Posted by: Gryphaena Feb 19 2016, 11:19 PM

I was fortunate to attend a discussion on campus with http://www.gayalliance.org/team_members/scott-fearing/, who has presented a Rochester TEDx talk.


I am still learning.

How inclusive is the LGBTQ community towards people who are disabled or not considered "whole"?


Perhaps you can share your experiences and share in what general area of the world you are in.

Posted by: Gryphaena Apr 16 2016, 04:23 PM

Dude, I guess I should let this thread die, but someone from my community college's GSA made what I thought was a rude remark about Shirley Temple. "She died when she was 85, she probably forgot how to breathe." that I thought was ageist but I did not have the courage to say so.

I feel we all need to remember not to disparage other people because of an aspect of them that we can perceive.

I would have thought that since that person knew what it was like to be seen as different they would extend courtesy to other people.

I may just be sensitive, I suppose.

What do you think?

Posted by: Kaleisum Apr 16 2016, 05:02 PM

Hello!

I didn't even know there was a LGBTQ thread! Thank for posting in April Community thread!
Maybe I'll introduce myself. I'm Kaleisum (or Kale for short). I go by he/him pronouns. I'm gay.

Since I know this thread exists I think it won't go into oblivion so fear no more, Gryphaena! x)

Posted by: Gryphaena Apr 17 2016, 11:21 AM

Hey, Kale!

Welcome. :]

I think an earlier poster in here is asexual so you're in good company.

I hope people will remember this thread and not just perform drive-by posts.

Posted by: Kaleisum Apr 17 2016, 02:43 PM

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Posted by: cactuspaws Apr 26 2016, 08:28 PM

hey guys! my name is dakota (or cactus) and i'm a nonbinary gray-ace lesbian !! =^-^=

Posted by: Kaleisum Apr 27 2016, 11:24 AM

QUOTE(cactuspaws @ Apr 27 2016, 03:28 AM) *
hey guys! my name is dakota (or cactus) and i'm a nonbinary gray-ace lesbian !! =^-^=


Hey Dakota. Welcome to the thread. x)


Posted by: Aberrant Mercutio May 8 2016, 02:27 PM

Hiya. In response to Kale's prompt....

I've always been gender nonconforming. I felt highly uncomfortable and would scream and thrash when forced to wear clothes of my 'birth gender' or whatever. I never played with toys of my birth gender. My mom denies this and always tried sooo hard to shove me into the gender mold. I don't want to go into more detail or recount more stories, because it makes me very angry, of course. My entire childhood was controlled by an insane narcissist who had to always have it her way. Happy Mother's Day.

For a while I decided I was fully transgender, like, binary transgender. As I've been away from my mom and able to experiment more (I luckily am able to pass either way without hormones), I think I've been leaning more towards somewhere in between. I don't think I could handle the stigma of a full transition, and I don't know that I identify as that other gender that strongly. All I know is that I DON'T identify as my birth gender AT ALL. So lately I've just been settling for "genderqueer" as a pretty open-ended label. I might get some surgery later to be more comfortable with my body, because that creates great discomfort for me, but I'm fairly indifferent in terms of pronouns.

The bisexuality came more or less after the trans bit, so it wasn't even big enough to be a talking point, honestly. I've known I liked boys for a while, and at some point later, it was like, "oh yeah, I like girls and non-binary people, too." sort of like, sure, whatever. It's really not a big deal to me. I feel like gender is a social construct, and anybody can like anybody. So. Yeah.

Posted by: Sledwaya May 19 2016, 01:50 PM

Oh my, I'm so glad I found this thread! I'm Sledwaya (she/her) but feel free to call me Vic, I identify as asexual and I'm pretty sure I belong somewhere on the aromantic spectrum. I have only told one friend about this and she was very supportive, but sadly I can't say the same about my family. I live in southern Switzerland (the Italian-speaking region), and since we are so far away from most large cities (where people speak either German or French, so there's also a language barrier) many people are still terribly misinformed and closed-minded.

Let's get personal: I started considering asexuality when I realised that words such as "sexy" or "hot" never really made sense to me, and I have been using it to describe myself for about 5 months now. When I was younger I thought that I had to be a lesbian because I never found any guy sexually attractive, but it's the same with girls so I just rolled with it haha. I have to say that accepting my asexuality was a lot easier than what I am doing now, which is dealing with aromanticism. I think it's so hard because girls are told from a very young age that their main goal in life is to find true, everlasting love and my brain hasn't forgotten it yet. I've tried everything to prove myself that after all I am somewhat romantic, and I even got into a relationship that failed miserably in less than a month and I ended up hurting a really nice guy who did'nt deserve it at all. Also, I have severe depression, and sometimes I wonder if that's the cause of my lack of romantic attraction. However, lately I have been thinking about it a lot and self-acceptance seems to be a little closer, though I still don't know my place in the aro spectrum.

The thing that has been bothering the most lately is that some family members, especially my mother, keep telling me that it's impossible not to have a crush on anyone at my age (I'm turning 18 in September), and she's so desperate that she'd even be okay with me dating a girl. According to her not experimenting with LoveÖ is unhealthy, and she doesn't want me to end up by myself with no children or husband. I have told her very clearly that I don't want children, and being alone wouldn't really bother me (though I'd love to be in a QPR one day), and of course she's sure that sooner or later I'll change my mind. There's no way she would even try to understand asexuality, let alone aromanticism, so I guess I'll have to bear with her complaints until I leave for university. If in the future I were to actually change my mind (= discover a new side of my romantic/sexual orientation) that's great, but at the moment (and for my whole life) these are the labels that suit me the best.

I wish asexuality and aromanticism had more visibility, so that they'd be acknowledged (and maybe even considered valid woohoo) more both by the general population and the LGBT+ community. Excuse me for the long post, I get carried away whenever I see other arospec/acespec people in forums. xD

Posted by: Hitaka5Ever Jun 3 2016, 01:36 AM

June is Pride month! I posted this to the community forum, but I figured I'd share it here too since it was pointed out to me. Anyway, here's my sexuality:

I am part of the ace/aro spectrum. I am neither sexually attracted to people (asexual) nor am I physically/emotionally attracted to people, regardless of gender (aromantic) Personally I am sex-repulsed, but I do not have an issue with porn stuff (though I'd rather keep it at a fictional capacity) and I have next to no sex drive at all (beyond popular belief, ace people can have urges, but for many cases its rare to have)

True story, but I didn't know what ace/aro even was until I hit middle school age (so 6-7th grade I believe) thanks to an online friend giving me the details. All my life I had no desire to date, I didn't have crushes, nor did I find people attractive in any way (I didn't/don't like it when people ask me stuff like "do you think this dress is pretty on me?" or "isn't this outfit/accessory cute?!" bc I literally cannot give you an opinion XD Its a bit of a curse actually lol) and I have been adamant about being single my whole life due to these factors. While I was never jealous of my family and friends dating people, I didn't understand why I didn't want to do it myself, but luckily that changed early on enough for me

Being ace definitely has its struggles, but luckily for me I haven't really personally been a target for ridicule or had people give me the usual spiel of "its a phase" or "you just haven't found the right person yet" etc stuff that can be irksome (it helps that only my immediate family even knows and I have very understanding friends, both on and offline. I've mostly experienced it with my oldest sister even though she identifies as demisexual) Sadly I see acephobia all around and I have heard some pretty terrible stories, even from LGBT people, so I understand how hard it can be. I mostly get pretty upset over the lack of ace representation in the media, but my hope is that once LGBT people are more accepted in the world, then the rest of us can be treated with respect too. Baby steps are better than no steps at all, I say!

Posted by: Gryphaena Jun 13 2016, 03:59 PM

Ugh, yet more violence against the LGBTQ community.

I hope everyone stays as safe as possible.

It is so sad when places where people go to have fun get attacked, then no one will be able to feel safe anywhere.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 17 2016, 02:43 PM

So maybe I should re-read the posts here again, but am I the only one that's posted so far who doesn't care what gender I am?

I guess I could be considered agender or genderfluid, according to something I saw on Reddit.

Posted by: CrazyUmbreonLady Jul 17 2016, 03:54 PM

So, last week I went through an identity crisis.

I was watching videos on sexualities when I actually began to wonder whether or not I'm heterosexual or asexual. I mean, I've always identified as straight, because asexual people don't normally date other people (as I'm in a relationship as of this post), right? Though I've never had much of a drive, so I was still confused.

As it turns out, there's a difference between being asexual (no sexual attraction) and being aromantic (no romantic attraction).

So I guess I'm a heteroromantic asexual? Feels strange to be technically part of the LGBTQ community despite having friends in sexual minorities, but I don't believe it's a bad thing.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 17 2016, 08:00 PM

Hullo CUL, welcome! :]

Huh, I didn't know that there was something called aromantic, but I guess it makes sense.

Posted by: kingofeli Jul 20 2016, 08:57 PM

Hi there! I'm Ricky, I'm a panromantic asexual non-binary trans boy and I'm glad to see this kind of thread here!

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 20 2016, 09:33 PM

Hullo Ricky! :]

May I ask what panromantic means?

Posted by: kingofeli Jul 21 2016, 02:21 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 20 2016, 10:33 PM) *
Hullo Ricky! :]

May I ask what panromantic means?


Panromantic means you're romantically attracted to all genders, but not sexually.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 21 2016, 04:00 PM

Thank you, I am learning still.

I don't care if I am male or female so I guess I am either agender or genderfluid.

Posted by: Sledwaya Jul 23 2016, 12:15 PM

@ Gryphaena: I do not care about my gender either! I tell people I identify as a girl simply because that's what I was assigned at birth and no explanations are needed. For me personally having a gender is completely unnecessary, and when I'm by myself I like to simply consider myself a person.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 23 2016, 04:30 PM

@Sledwaya: Cool, someone else in here like that. :]

Which pride flag trinket is in your signature?

Posted by: Sledwaya Jul 24 2016, 08:53 AM

It's the asexual flag ^^ (I haven't found the trinket yet, it's just an icon I found online lol)

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 25 2016, 07:42 AM

Ok, so that's what the asexual flag looks like.

I'm guessing gray is on there to signify lack of sexual passion.

Posted by: Sledwaya Jul 30 2016, 10:02 AM

It actually represents the gray area between asexuality and allosexuality (= experiencing sexual attraction), which includes demisexuals, gray aces, etc. Additionally, the black stripe is for asexuality, the white one is for allies and non-ace partners, and the purple one represents the whole community. I personally think it's a very pretty flag, and I like to wear its colours to low-key show my pride hahahah.

Posted by: Gryphaena Aug 2 2016, 03:46 PM

Ah, thank you for the education!

I'ts great that you can show your support for the community, my ma's been listening to Catholic radio lately and I don't think I can reveal myself at home yet.

But my older sister, aunt and therapist know.

Posted by: Chillwave Aug 9 2016, 07:26 PM

bisexual non-binary girl here! to be more specific w/ my gender identity, i like to call myself genderflux - my feelings on gender varies in intensity. most of the time i do feel female, but sometimes i feel nothing at all and don't want to be associated with any gender.

Posted by: Gryphaena Aug 9 2016, 08:38 PM

Hullo, Chillwave, welcome! :]

The presidemt of the local GSA club on campus has asked members who are trans or nonbinary if they want to be part of a documentary and some of us have responded favorably, including me.

I wonder if I'll get interviewed.

I gave the person a short profile on myself.

Posted by: Shunte Aug 18 2016, 02:11 AM

QUOTE(Cycloneblaze @ Jul 2 2015, 03:25 AM) *
Well, I'm all straight and boring so I don't think I'll contribute much to this thread. But I do want to say I also hope this becomes a big happy thread for the LGBT members of our community! I've chatted to plenty of you, and y'all are awesome. happy.gif


I've been struggling with being a gender fluid for a under a year now. It started when I was 18...I've always been a tom boy all my life. I hate girl clothes, I hate the color pink, I think people who do fashion need to get shanked because nothing fits me!!!

I'm starting to cope with the random switches during either the day or at night. But I've always felt more like a guy trapped in this stupid girl body. I don't think I'm really transgender but I do know that most of my friends have been guys cause I can't stand other females, with a few exceptions to some of my close female friends. It's a bit hard to explain cause I am very emotionally stunted from my bad childhood so I have a hard time talking to others and opening up about things....cause then people see a freak.

Posted by: Gryphaena Aug 18 2016, 12:54 PM

Welcome, Shunte! :]

I think I can relate to you a bit, I'm not very girly either, I seem to relate to the women who don't care too much about fashion as well.

I know some people who are sensitive to scented lotions and things so I don't use those products.

I've never had a manicure or pedicure because I garden and it'd just get ruined.

I once had a female classmate who freaked out at the insects and worms in the garden and I wanted to ask her why she even paid for a class that would be outside.

I would go around in overalls if I could bu my mom wouldn't like that unless I paid for em with my own money so I'm starting job searching.


Posted by: Shunte Aug 22 2016, 01:32 AM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Aug 18 2016, 10:54 AM) *
Welcome, Shunte! :]

I think I can relate to you a bit, I'm not very girly either, I seem to relate to the women who don't care too much about fashion as well.

I know some people who are sensitive to scented lotions and things so I don't use those products.

I've never had a manicure or pedicure because I garden and it'd just get ruined.

I once had a female classmate who freaked out at the insects and worms in the garden and I wanted to ask her why she even paid for a class that would be outside.

I would go around in overalls if I could bu my mom wouldn't like that unless I paid for em with my own money so I'm starting job searching.


I wear a lot of guy clothes cause I find them quiet comfy much to the probable displeasure of my highly religious adopted parents. Well I don't really think my adopted cares but my adopted mom does cause I picked up the habit from a friend of mine I am very close to. It's mostly just the shirts, I still wear girl pants as long as they don't try to squeeze the life out of me.

Posted by: Gryphaena Dec 16 2016, 11:32 AM

I have a question for everyone who is nonbinary: Do you ever have dreams where you're the other sex and you're going to the bathroom like them?

I've had dreams where I'm a guy twice now.

It's interesting.

Or do you dream of safe spaces if your usual environment is not welcoming?

I do.

Posted by: RavenABlack Dec 17 2016, 07:22 PM

Hi, I'm Raven Black.

I was born Amanda Schifano but that's become a slave name to my past being raised a door mat to my mothers ideals and expectations for me.

I was raised Catholic but realized I only went for the free band when our awesome band was replaced by this old woman who sung horribly and realized I didn't give a damn about anything in the religion.

People abused my kindness so I changed my name, had a bit of a "goodbye to Sandra Dee" moment and rose myself from the ashes like a phoenix. Ironically it's one of my favorite mythical beings.

Religion wise, I can't say. I believe in reincarnation but like the idea of waking up in the world I only role play about.

I'm asexual and gender fluid but mostly gender void.

But I do have a female fiance whom I've known and been with for 10+ years. She's my RP partner, best friend and greatest ally who's been there with me thick and thin and I wouldn;t have it any other way. She's talked me through good and bad times so while there are many like her, she is mine.

I hate gender nouns. I am not Miss, Ma'am, madam etc and prefer Xir or Zim. X) though I don't mind being called sir. >_> Because I was raised that women are child bearers and house keepers but I am a warrior and will NEVER be pushing out one of those Parasite STD's.

I'm almost 30 and STILL hate children and that's ok because my fiance does to. We prefer animals, robots and cars X)

Posted by: Gryphaena Jan 17 2017, 04:43 PM

Hello Raven, thank you for your perspective.

Who thought of the terms Xir and Zim?

It's interesting. Why are those considered gender neutral?

I do not know very much.

Posted by: MisterGrieves Mar 1 2017, 01:47 PM

It's been a while since I've been on these forums. Happy to see this type of thread on here!

I'm a bisexual man and in a relationship with a bisexual woman. People can't seem to wrap their heads around that.

(Fun fact: We met on this website 6 years ago, became best friends and later partners, visited each other on school breaks, and have just recently moved in together!)

I'm attracted to men and women (and other gender presentations) in different ways. I can find a man's physical appearance attractive, but have a harder time being attracted to their personality, possibly due to the experiences I have had with male figures in my life. I have no problem being sexually and romantically attracted to women and non-binary folk.

I identify as a man but sometimes I feel non-binary. Still trying to figure this one out, since I have a very masculine body type and don't know how I would be able to present as anything else. It's more an occasional feeling than anything else, currently.

Posted by: Gryphaena Mar 1 2017, 09:50 PM

Hullo, MisterGrieves, welcome!

I think it's awesome that this website has led you and your wife to each other!

I don't know what new discussion we should have, it seems my previous question was ignored.

Posted by: fiji water Mar 5 2017, 06:06 PM

as far as my gender identity goes, i'm non-binary. the concept of gender is silly to me. i present myself as female though since i'm dfab but i consider myself more as a person than a gender.

for sexual identity, i'm proudly bi, and i'm dating a bi trans guy <3

Posted by: Gryphaena Mar 29 2017, 06:17 PM

Hullo fiji water, welcome!

What does "dfab" mean? I'd Google it but I might find all sorts of things so I think it'd make more sense to ask the community.

Posted by: Gryphaena May 5 2017, 01:46 PM

I bought a ticket for my campus' Gay Prom, it's next week and I am excited for it!

I just need to remember to bring earplugs in case it gets a bit loud.

Have any of you had the opportunity to go to a Gay Prom?

If you have, was the atmosphere fun, safe and freeing?

Edit reason: I misspelled "bought".

Posted by: snapplefacts May 5 2017, 09:11 PM

hey guys! nonbinary demiromantic pansexual in a seven year long (and counting!) relationship with someone of the same sex here. ❤️ she/they pronouns are fine!

i don't have enough energy to backread through everything right this second, but i did want to pop in to introduce myself and let everyone know that i stand with and support all lgbtqa+ identifying people! aro/aces included. i can't wait to share thoughts and stories and get to know you all!

Posted by: Gryphaena May 6 2017, 11:34 AM

Hello snapple! Welcome!

I'm slowly figuring out how I identify.

I hope everyone who wants relationships can find understanding and loving partners.

Posted by: ChiefMerridew Jun 30 2017, 07:49 PM

Hello everyone! I'm Trans (FTM) adn my sexuality is ????????, I think (THINK) I might be somewhere on the aro/ace spectrum. I think People are cute sometimes, I just don't really want to date anyone. sexuality is confusing as hell and I'd rather take nap tbh.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jun 30 2017, 08:53 PM

Hi, I think you might be the first person to say you're Trans in here.

Welcome!

I think I'll stick with questioning for now as my sexuality status. I don't really know much.

Posted by: ChiefMerridew Jul 1 2017, 02:38 AM

Oh Really? Well, I don't mind answering trans related questions if people have any! (As long as they aren't TOO invasive) and We can be on the "S.S. What's My Sexuality" Together laughing.gif (That's a terrible name for a ship, I know)

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 9 2017, 09:57 PM

Whoops, I forgot to reply, sorry!

I agree, people are cute, but the thought of some aspects of physicality squicks me out, so I dunno.

Doesn't help that no one has ever asked me out, at least, I don't think so.

Maybe my autistic traits make me oblivious to flirting? Hmm.

Posted by: Kurusu Jul 11 2017, 03:45 PM

I love this omg ! Howdy everyone I'm a nonbinary lesbian ! I wish there was a better term for a dfab nb person who loves girls but I have yet to find something so I guess lesbian will work for now :')
Anyways, I've been semi out of the closet for a while ? My cousin and dad know I'm gay, as well as just about all my friends. I haven't come out to my mom but I'm kinda hoping to do it while I'm attending college at least lol

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 11 2017, 03:48 PM

Hey Kurusu, welcome!

What does "dfab" mean?

I am still learning things in the community.

It's great that it's safe for you to come out, not everyone is so fortunate!

Posted by: Kurusu Jul 11 2017, 06:12 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Jul 11 2017, 03:48 PM) *
Hey Kurusu, welcome!

What does "dfab" mean?

I am still learning things in the community.

It's great that it's safe for you to come out, not everyone is so fortunate!

It means "designated female at birth," so in simpler terms I was born a girl lol

But yeah I'm really glad I have such accepting people in my life, I always think about how lucky I am that I'm able to express myself this much !

Posted by: Gryphaena Jul 11 2017, 07:03 PM

Ah, I've never heard the term before, thanks for the explanation.

A few of my relatives know that I don't care if I'm male or female, but not everyone yet.

Posted by: Gryphaena Oct 29 2017, 02:36 PM

May I ask what everyone here likes to do for fun?

I like to dance, sing, write, read and be working among plants.

It takes my mind off the stress of being in the closet among some people and letting others in my life see me.

Posted by: StarNightingale Nov 14 2017, 05:56 PM

Hi everyone, I'm pretty new here (Joined today actually). I think I'm Bi-romantic but I'm not sure I've been trying to figure it out for a while.

To answer Gryphaena I like to draw, play video games, read, listen to music, sometimes I write but I don't have much time to.

Posted by: Gryphaena Nov 14 2017, 06:39 PM

Hello StarNightingale, welcome!

Cool, what do you write?

I've been trying to get back into poems and sometimes I'll write fanfic.

I want to work on a Narnia fanfic I thought of the name already, "The Uncounted Clans" but I need to do research on all the biomes of Narnia to write it correctly. I can't believe C.S.Lewis completely ignored insects and fungi and other living things.

I hope more people use this thread in the future, but if not, that's ok too.

Posted by: StarNightingale Nov 16 2017, 01:00 AM

I used to write quite a bit of fanfic, I really haven't had the chance to write much lately but when I do it's either fanfic or my own short stories.

Posted by: Gryphaena Dec 6 2017, 03:12 PM

Hi StarNightingale, may I asky what fandoms you write your fanfic for?

I've been writing more poems than my Narnia fanfic.

If writing some poems three months ago counts as 'recently'.

I need to be more consistent in my writing habits.

Posted by: StarNightingale Dec 6 2017, 04:44 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Dec 6 2017, 03:12 PM) *
Hi StarNightingale, may I asky what fandoms you write your fanfic for?

I've been writing more poems than my Narnia fanfic.

If writing some poems three months ago counts as 'recently'.

I need to be more consistent in my writing habits.


Mainly Harry Potter, Avatar the last Airbender/Legend of Korra, Doctor Who, and Voltron Legendary Defender. Although I'm planning on starting a Stranger Things one when I have time.

Posted by: Gryphaena Dec 6 2017, 05:59 PM

QUOTE(StarNightingale @ Dec 6 2017, 01:44 PM) *
Mainly Harry Potter, Avatar the last Airbender/Legend of Korra, Doctor Who, and Voltron Legendary Defender. Although I'm planning on starting a Stranger Things one when I have time.


Ah, I have some Harry Potter books.

I like reading Andromeda Tonks and Ted Tonks fics.

Unfortunately I don't follow the other fandoms.

I just know a smattering of names/concepts from them, Toph, Daleks, Voltron's a robot(?) I think.

Posted by: StarNightingale Dec 6 2017, 06:42 PM

Voltron is technically 5 robots that can form another very large robot. It's a good show, it's on Netflix if you wanna try it out.

I haven't posted any fanfic in over a year and I don't have a lot of time to write anymore but hopefully I'll be able to write some over winter break.

I've also since my first post in this thread started to identify as Biromantic on top of my prior confidence in the fact that I'm Asexual and I'm pretty comfortable in those labels for the time being (I've changed around some as I've tried to figure it out)

Posted by: Gryphaena Dec 11 2017, 09:32 AM

Ah, thank you for the clarification.

I would also like to be able to have more time for writing.

I guess I just have to make some time.

Self-realization is good.

I haven't looked into all the different terms myself very much yet, I know there are resources online for learning about asexuality like http://www.asexuality.org/.


Posted by: Gryphaena Jun 8 2018, 04:03 PM

In the United States, it is Pride Month!

I hope for a world where everyone can be safe while being their authentic self.

Posted by: lonelyTroubadour Jun 20 2018, 10:41 AM

Howdy. I'm also transgender (FTM as well) and this Saturday I'm going to my first Pride. It's also the first Pride in the area of which I live.

Posted by: Gryphaena Jun 20 2018, 02:50 PM

Hello lonelyTroubadour, welcome! :]

I hope you have a safe and joyful experience at your first Pride!

Posted by: lonelyTroubadour Jun 23 2018, 09:40 PM

I'm back from Pride.

It was an event that lasted from 12-3. Various booths were there, ranging from Planned Parenthood to Dr. Rainbow to the ACLU. Everything was free and it was for all ages. I got three new shirts, a bunch of informative pamphlets, pins/buttons, and I even made some new friends. I thoroughly enjoyed myself and actually ended up tearing up at the kindness of various people there. Me and my friend group were even pictured and filmed for an indie documentary that will be made about the making of Pride in our area.

I'm so glad I went.


Posted by: Gryphaena Jun 23 2018, 09:57 PM

Sounds like it was a great time! :]

I'm not in a safe position to be photographed if I were to go to our city's Pride, unfortunately.

I haven't gone in a while, maybe 6 years?

Posted by: lonelyTroubadour Jun 24 2018, 11:58 AM

It really was!


Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. They should really adopt a system like some conventions have where you get a certain color ribbon or something that indicates if you want to be photographed or not.


I hope you're able to go again soon.

Posted by: Gladion Aug 13 2018, 09:59 AM

Looks like this thread has been quiet for a while but I'd like to post anyway. happy.gif

I'm a nonbinary/genderfluid kind of guy, and I don't really mind what pronouns people use for me. If you don't want to decide, he/him is fine. I'm pan I guess, I don't think about defining it much anymore, it just is what it is.

I also have fairly intense depressive episodes and I have to deal with heavy anxiety pretty often... I'm managing though. Been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD. I also suspect I'm on the autism spectrum but have yet to get evaluated for it.

Posted by: Gryphaena Aug 13 2018, 10:05 AM

Hi again, Gladion, I responded to your Intro thread.

Cool, you're a genderfluid person?

I think I am, I don't care much what pronouns someone uses for me and I feel as comfortable in a flannel shirt and overalls as I do in a skirt and heels.

I also live with depression with psychotic features and my second therapist and psychiatrist both thought I'm on the autism spectrum, so heh.

I have a Mental Illness thread that hasn't been used in some months too.

I don't know how to get people to post in my threads without being an attention whore.

Oh well.

I guess showing em in my signature will have to be enough.

Posted by: sublinket Aug 13 2018, 06:15 PM

My sexuality has been kind of an enigma for me for a while. I thought I was bi but I have no interest in doing sexual things with girls the way I do with other guys. But I do desire a relationship with a girl as they generally are nicer, kinder and listen better than a man does. But that's not all the time either - some days I'm basically sex-repulsed while other days I'm really into the idea. Regardless, I've been saying I don't have a sexuality, which works I guess, but I'd love a term for it.

Any resources for me, guys?

Posted by: Gryphaena Aug 13 2018, 08:14 PM

Hi, sublinket, I just googled "sexuality spectrum" and found something from UC Santa Barbara that may be helpful.

http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/overview-sexual-orientations

There's lots of detail.

I hope this is what you meant.

Posted by: sublinket Aug 14 2018, 07:28 AM

Thank you for the reply! I've looked through the article and while I can't say I feel like any of the sexual orientations mentioned, I appreciate the help regardless.

Posted by: Gladion Aug 14 2018, 04:31 PM

QUOTE(Gryphaena @ Aug 13 2018, 11:05 AM) *
Hi again, Gladion, I responded to your Intro thread.

Cool, you're a genderfluid person?

I think I am, I don't care much what pronouns someone uses for me and I feel as comfortable in a flannel shirt and overalls as I do in a skirt and heels.

I also live with depression with psychotic features and my second therapist and psychiatrist both thought I'm on the autism spectrum, so heh.

I have a Mental Illness thread that hasn't been used in some months too.

I don't know how to get people to post in my threads without being an attention whore.

Oh well.

I guess showing em in my signature will have to be enough.


I saw! :-) Thank you!

I am, I've waffled between agender/androgynous/masculine for a while but within the past several months I've settled into genderfluid. It feels comfortable, and that's all that really matters to me. Also, I think I replied to that thread actually! Back when I was first starting out at my first job, I think. Cool!

I've never been too active on forums honestly, but lately it seems appealing, so I'm trying to ease into it.

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Also, hello sublinket! I hope you find something that works out for you. Even so, don't feel too pressured to label yourself! I'm sure you'll figure it out in time. :-)

Posted by: Peryite Sep 6 2018, 01:02 AM

hello! ovo

i'm nonbinary - i still feel somewhat aligned with my assigned gender, and that's why i can consider myself a lesbian, but most days i'd prefer to just not be associated with any gender at all. being referred to as 'she' makes me uncomfortable; i prefer they/them pronouns.

for most of my life i identified as bisexual, but like with a huge, huge preference for women, and it was only a year ago when i realized that my 'attraction' for men was more forced and not natural. sexuality can be a very confusing thing, and there's no shame in taking years to figure out what you are!

Posted by: Gryphaena Sep 6 2018, 08:53 PM

Hello Peryite, welcome! :]

Ah, so sexuality takes a while to come to terms with sometimes.

Good to know!


Posted by: Gryphaena Sep 8 2018, 06:50 PM

So a member of the transgender community at my college got pushed against a wall and bruised this week.

I hope everyone stays safe!


Posted by: JacksonPeach Jan 23 2019, 05:46 AM

Hello! My name is Jackson. I also go by Peach and Fawn. I am presquegender, bisexual, and quoiromantic. My identity has been a source of pride for me ever since I discovered it, though it has also been very confusing and sometimes painful. The rest of my post is under a spoiler because it's super long.

Spoiler (click to showhide)

Posted by: Gryphaena Jan 23 2019, 07:37 AM

Hello Jackson, how wonderful that you feel comfortable enough to set terms to describe yourself and that you have found someone to spend time with. :]

Posted by: Roxas Wayfinder Apr 18 2019, 08:24 PM

Hiya, guys, gals and non-binary pals. 👋🏻

My names Roxas, but I go by R, Rox, or Roxy. I am FtM, but I am still in the early stages of my transition to male. I still haven't seen the Doctor about starting my testosterone shots, but my Doctors appointment is set for next month in May; unless they miraculous have a sooner opening/cancelation.

I use guy pronouns, but if you make a mistake; more than likely I will correct you. I have a pet-peeve when people use female pronouns, even after saying I hate them. I would understand if you accidentally did it; because of stupid autocorrect on phones. 😌

Posted by: Gryphaena Apr 19 2019, 12:03 AM

Hello R, welcome to the thread!

It's been dead for some months, unfortunately.


Posted by: Roxas Wayfinder Apr 19 2019, 08:47 AM

Welp, as long as it's not a year old; I do believe, I just revived it a bit. I'm more of a talker with people I know, that understanding me.

So I'll probably chat here, than the Official Chatter Box. I just feel uncomfortable there...

Posted by: Gryphaena Apr 20 2019, 02:39 AM

I don't know how often this thread will get used, but as long as everyone feels comfortable.

I feel really bummed, I lost some writings I kept on a USB since 2016.

I kept them there because they were about LGBTQ+ topics that I don't feel ready to share with my parents yet.

Posted by: Roxas Wayfinder Apr 22 2019, 10:08 PM

Can you find where you found that again? The things on the USB?

Posted by: gregoryk Jun 6 2019, 12:34 AM

howdy howdy! im greg, a trans masc dude whos sexuality is literally a mystery. im married to another trans dude who isn't on-site, but i love him anyways cx i live in the bible belt so im waaaaaaay in the closet, sadly and only out on the internet. i have extreme paranoia but we dont know why and cant afford a therapist to figure out why either, not that my parents would get me one if we did anyways :^)

Posted by: Gryphaena Jun 6 2019, 03:08 PM

Hello, greg, welcome!

I am also in the closet, I don't feel safe around my parents with these topics yet.

I hope you find the support you need!

How wonderful that you are married. :]

Posted by: Gryphites Aug 9 2019, 04:19 AM

Why not... :>

I'm a cis bi guy in his late twenties.
During my lifetime I've definitely struggled with accepting myself (and sometimes I still feel like I'm not "bi enough" because of how my attractions work) but I think I'm on a right track.
Lately I've started to come out to my friends and you know what? It feels nice. Especially when, despite our differences, they see *me*, not the stereotype, or what the media has told them about this community.

Annnd that's all for now wink.gif

Posted by: Gryphaena Aug 9 2019, 11:41 AM

Hello Gryphites, welcome! :]

That is so precious, that your friends are accepting of you!

May we all have such friends and family in our lives.

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